1899:
My attitude to you as a meat
eater is what? It’s none of anyone’s business what anyone thinks of anyone. But
behaviour is important, it’s the clothing of our thoughts. I sense you knowing better than me, and that’s
guaranteed to make things go wrong between us. There’s a microsecond of feeling
being transmitted, before the brain catches up and tries to hide it. This is
where the real damage is done, feeling-wise - you feel you’re being judged by me.
You’re something between being disliked and being thought of as distasteful. And
in reply, you think much the same about me.
If I sense your dislike and
if I let my ego sweep in, in defence of ME, then I begin to move towards
retaliation. If we’re enjoying the struggle, that’s fine. That can be
liberating and stimulating. But if we’re not on the same sparring level, and it
goes wrong, and one or the other slips into value-judging or condemning, that’s
where the rot sets in.
If I start disliking you
because I think we should all be vegan, then mine isn’t just a specific dislike
but a whole-person dislike, catastrophic enough to cause a severing of
connections. It’s like two jarring tectonic plates leading to earthquake. So,
in the delicate rose beds of human to human relationship, we are careful about
who we are sounding-off to. If it goes wrong, I’ll probably be de-friended but
worse, by association, my ideas suffer the same indignity. When trust is
withdrawn, it can become a war zone, me demanding air space, you just wanting
to catch me out. End of.
Or maybe it’s a beginning.
But a dangerous route to take and not in keeping with the principle underlying
non-violence. Rough and Tumble is sometimes essential, but delicate handling is
appropriate at other times. If we really were to operate between ourselves on
an instinctive, vibration-ary level, we’d have no trouble reading the signals
and never make the really bad mistakes of mis-communication.
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