1003:
The affection and intimacy we all so easily show to a dog or
cat is more inhibited when it comes to humans. If we don’t have the same invitation from
others, we don’t show them quite the same level of intimacy. We might not be prepared to take the
initiative. People, even kids today (and
perhaps with good reason!), don’t trust spontaneous intimacy. We are more likely to pre-think our
interactions. Perhaps we’re afraid of
one another.
Even closer to home, firstly with people we know,
intimacy-levels have to be established. Do
I hug my friends when I meet them, kiss them, shake their hands? Should I be soft and gentle with kids or be
stricter, firmer? Do I trust my neighbour
enough to be friendly or should I establish some distance between us? Perhaps we fear that if we get too friendly,
people will think we have ulterior motives. Or if I’m too trusting there’s a fear in me
that I might be taken advantage of.
If we are ever to break down our barriers, if we want
intimacy and non-violence to be the norm, then we must trust ourselves and our
motives, and then go on to trust that others will read our signals and respond
accordingly. If I want to nurture trust,
I must take the lead. I must show intimacy and affection, not sometimes but at
all times. Perhaps I must be prepared to
risk my reputation, give other people the benefit of the doubt, consistently
look for the good points in others, and be more aware of myself when interacting;
I have to be sure there’s no aggro in my own words, and if I make a mistake, I
must right it with apology and affection.
All this we have to do if we want to prove our deeper aim -
to emphasise non-violence and affection. If we want to break down alienation, there
needs to be no disaffection but lots of empathy.
All this must be ‘danced’, human to human. If we can get it right with one another then
we stand a better chance of applying it in the form of empathy-with-animals. Whether we feel close to the plight of humans
or closer to animals, we can learn from each other, from those who have a
different inclination from ourselves; this is where vegans can learn to be
warmer to their fellow humans and where the omnivore can feel more affection for
the animals they’re consuming. We oil
the wheels of non-violence with affection. In the end, it’s only by upping our affection
that will transform us into truly compassionate people.
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