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For omnivores, it
isn’t surprising if they feel invaded, when a vegan opens their fridge and
makes comments about the contents. I see inside people’s fridges and of course
notice if they have things there that I don’t keep in my fridge. Should I
respect the privacy of other people’s larders and cupboards? Of course.
Similarly, at someone’s dinner table, I find myself amongst others and I
notice, by what they’re eating that they are all omnivore, except for me. My
first instinct is to criticise the food, food that has been lovingly prepared.
And that makes the cook feel very pissed off.
For hours the cook sweated over the preparations for this meal. It was
a creative production. The cook prepares a meal and invites friends over to eat
it. And then – WHAM – some unlovely person disapproves. I turn my nose
up at it.
Of course I shouldn’t accept invitations without first mentioning the
food thing, that is what I don’t eat and why I don’t eat it, all made clear
well before I accept any dinner invitation. I shouldn’t get myself into awkward
situations where I might feel like judging someone else’s food. If I try to
make comments about the food, about animals, etc., I’ll almost certainly change
the whole atmosphere of the gathering.
What usually happens, around any dinner table, is that the conversation
touches on the food, with compliments to the chef. Imagine then if I say, “Yes,
this may be creative cuisine but it’s not good food”, and then launch into the
whole animal thing, cruelty, the danger of animal protein. It’s a big slap in
the face for the host and for everyone enjoying the food.
There’s nothing like a simple plate of food to spark passions and
argument and hurt feelings. Offence is caused and everyone gets to dislike the
vegan.
From my point of view I see a golden opportunity to educate everyone at
the table, about cruelty issues, about vegan principle and the health
advantages of plant-based foods but ... there’s a time and a place. Muscling in
on a dinner party conversation to promote veganism probably does much more harm
than good. If I ‘ride rough shod’ over people’s feelings, in this case
attempting to give everyone a big wake up call, I might feel I’ve done a good
job, by speaking up for the animals. But I’ve questioned the cook’s right to
prepare the food she chooses. What’s more to the point, I’ve given her guests
an opportunity to back her up. And worse, behind my back, my protest gives
everyone a chance to bring the incident up again and again, in future
table-talk. “When this vegan came round to dinner (who, incidentally, won’t be
invited around again!), he said ...”
“I nearly said to him …”.
Food fights always make good stories for retelling, but they can sour
whole relationships. As a vegan I try to avoid these dinner invitations. I’m
not sure I want anyone to go to the trouble of making special food for me or to
eat these ‘special foods’ amongst people who are eating meat. And that means an
end to accepting dinner invitations from non-vegans and running the risk of
being labelled anti-social.
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