Too good to refuse

Like an athlete practising daily push-ups, we need to practise being non-judgemental. In our culture it doesn’t come easily. Slagging off the people we dislike is a popular pastime. Omnivores dislike anyone who spoils their dinner. If we continue talking about Animal Rights without permission, we’ll seem like gate-crashers; by entering a person’s space without an “okay” signal we’re seen as intrusive.
When you’re eating your leg of lamb and I criticise your food choice, I’m really saying that I think you are a “thug”. When you “eat lamb”, you’re judged (in vegan eyes) as either bad, violent or stupid. Each barb is meant to hurt or jolt. We always go for the tender spot, the omnivore’s conscience. What comes across sounds less like advice and more like revenge.
By attacking personal values we always provoke a response, of equal hurtfulness. That’s how quarrels start and how wars blow up. Humans have been doing this to one another for eons. Primitive humans always took that route as the quickest way to deal with their opponents. A quarrel threatens those who don’t agree with us.
The disagreement is often about food and specifically ‘animal’ food. Since food choice is central to our independent lifestyle as adults, a vegan’s rather short-tempered point of view, about making the wrong food choices, is hard to take. So, it’s probably wise for aggro vegans to veer towards presenting their arguments as something too good to refuse. We don’t need to modify our passion just our aggro.