Is our non-violence stable?

Unless we are under age or dependent on others to provide our food and clothing, it’s our responsibility to make our own choices. They can’t be left to anyone else. It’s up to us to decide to either develop a hard nose or a soft heart. That central choice is relevant to just about everything we do. But however soft hearted we are, say over the matter of animals, at some stage we’ll be asking if we’re also soft hearted about people - especially when trying to recruit them? Do we become disappointed with people when they don’t come across? Do we give up on them? Are we willing to bend over backwards to ease their transition?
And a few more questions. However important we think a matter is, can we discuss it without getting heated? Can we remain friends with people who disagree with us? Can we be sure our non-violence is stable when we wander into the minefield of persuasion?
The reason for being dynamic in the first place is that there are always two points of view concerning the big issues. Life, made up of polarities and we, taking up issues, all about creating tension, stirring ourselves into action, getting a reaction, and bringing issues into sharper focus. On the subject of Animal Rights, we might feel passionately about cruelty and therefore the urgency for everyone to at least become vegetarian, but as soon as we declare this, we are answerable for what we say and the way we say it. We might think we can keep our balance in whatever we say, but others’ reactions we can’t be sure of. The temptation for any of us to become reactive and self-justifying seriously impedes reasoned argument. If we, as vegans, are going to be the ones raising the subject, then it’s up to us NOT to deliberately provoke defensive reactions. Same goes for not trying to shame people, because there’s nothing worse than being accused (even by implication) of unethical behaviour.
If this subject is something we want to talk about we need to remember that this is one extremely sensitive subject. No other like it. Whatever we say will be interpreted in part as personal accusation or a criticism of certain behaviour. And that often means we’re critical of the whole person as well. Whatever we say in public, we should think-non-violence before speaking.