Advisors

Our main mistake, as I see it, is that in our quest for self-improvement we’ve let ourselves be seduced by vested interests without really noticing it. From when a person first becomes discontent, even as far back as being little kids, the delusion starts - we are led to believe that we are not ANYTHING enough, so we set off on the self-improvement trail. Being good, good at things, etc. And somewhere along the line our delusions dance to the tune of ‘wise and nice people’. We fall for the oldest trick in the book - we allow ourselves to believe their “truths” and that they are ‘true’ people. (Ah, the search for the perfect parent figure - huh!). Over the years we follow both advice and advisors. And we seem to be going along just fine, chauffeur-driven almost ... until, with some shocking, eleventh-hour realisation, we see the danger of letting someone else drive for us. A major part of our life is now in their hands.
What if all along they were not true? What if we’d been deluded? What if they, well-spoken, revered by Society, were themselves deluded (rather like finding our chauffeur is a drunk). What a shock. We see a crash coming but it’s too late, for us. We ‘give-in’, we go with the flow and decide NOT to stand out.
The inevitable crash happens, you survive. Either you may lick your wounds or this could be the ‘give-way’ point, acceptance, shift to driving our own life, making our own decisions and NOT letting vested interests drive us. Maybe we do learn to change. We do stand up for things. We do well by it ... but still, we feel deluded or duped? We now drive for our self but there’s still a circular choice-making going on, as if covering other choices we’re still reluctant to make.
We’re going along just fine, albeit circularly, until we encounter a busy-body, interfering vegan. Another advisor! What then?