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I go to peoples’ places and
I’m offered the usual snacks and drinks. And mostly I simply say, “No thanks”.
‘Stunned’ is the best word to
describe the reactions I often get. Too
often, I’m met with utter incomprehension, like when I decline some ‘cheesy-thing’
on a plate, which everyone else has dived for.
If pressed, as soon as I give
my reason, I’m labelled as being a bit weird. At a social event, someone might race around,
to find me something I can eat. But most
people are defenders of ‘the faith’, and secretly resent my finicky eating
habits, for that’s what they turn this into.
From what could be a simple
“ah, you’re vegan” and a recognition of the compassion-angle I’m taking, I get
the other extreme - irritation, at my being ‘fussy about food’. I don’t get asked why I’m fussy, since
that would be stepping into a dangerous area. On some level they can guess that
cheese probably falls into a grey area, and that cheese and dairy and cows and
cruelty might be connected; and that this is something of a problem that I
might want to mention, given half the chance.
They know to steer clear. Either
there’s a danger that I’ll make them feel uninformed or unethical. Mostly, they
suspect it’s a health issue, and something to do with nutrition. They might
expect me to lecture them about animal-food containing too much fat or sugar or
being too high in protein and therefore harmful to health, etc. What they may
NOT expect is the Animal Rights-angle, making them feel profoundly uncomfortable.
So, as a vegan, refusing
foods that everyone else enjoys, makes me seem like a threatening influence,
which is why I’m not often asked out to eat.
Ouch! And if I’m ever asked
for my reasoning behind my food choices I simply come across as a social
pariah. I’ll never be the one to bring the subject up. But if others do comment
then I’ll pursue it. But my reply won’t be lengthy, in order to avoid losing
their interest. It’s easy to become a bore on the matter.
For my part I don’t see
myself as a punch-bag, I wouldn’t let anyone get away with saying something
outrageously anti-animal. However,
releasing too much, too emotionally, is a trap. My incredulity (I never cease
to be amazed!) can’t be shown, on any account.
When we’re amongst omnivores,
we know that they know we know - that their foods make them fat, and it encourages
high blood pressure, heart disease, diabetes and sometimes cancer. For them the
very idea of discussing this is out of the question.
If I’m going to talk about
all this (even getting close to a point where the subject is about to be
raised) I need to know if that person is willing to hear what I have to say,
and that means I need to know something about that person - that they can take it,
and that they have faith in me not to want to make them feel uncomfortable.
I must have up my sleeve
something to catch attention. I’m in the business of selling veganism, trying
to make it irresistible, and therefore so attractive that they must TRY it. And
in trying it, of course, I expect they might become hooked.
For the advocate, full of
good intention, the traps are, in order of appearance: it’s too easy to show
off; it’s too easy to make sweeping statements; it’s too easy to be outrageous,
and it’s too easy to win the argument. At this early stage in Animal Rights
consciousness we probably don’t need to draw that much fire. We don’t need to
make it too easy, for anyone listening, to change the subject. It’s often the
case that we can be drawn into and get bogged down in fine details, because it
too nicely avoids dealing with ‘more uncomfortable matters’.
As animal activists we won’t
be able to satisfy every inquirer’s questions about diet and nutrition and
health, although we should try. We now know that science is arguing both health
and environmental advantages for eating animal-based foods and for keeping
animals intensively for their lower carbon emissions. So, I reckon my best
approach is to appeal to the heart.
Our job, as vegans, is to
assure people of the general safety and health of a plant-based diet, and then
move on to explain all that stuff about how animals are treated as machines,
etc, sprinkling into the mix the fun of being a vegan. Our final point being
that there’s great self-advantage. The
main attraction boils down to this: “You’d be mad not to try”